What IS insecurity? (2)

Do you still have your pen or pencil ready?  Here we go…


Insecurity is an INNER stronghold that mirrors an OUTWARD struggle. 

What does that mean?  It means that even though insecurity may be an inner prison of bondage it manifests itself in various forms outside ourselves, in the way we work, talk, and relate to others…


Let me give you a few examples.  See if you can find yourself in one of these…


John has major insecurity issues that have never been dealt with.  These issues project outwardly in the extra weight he carries around. 


Jane also lives in the bondage of insecurity.  It projects outwardly in her fear of getting too close to others. 


Mike is extremely insecure with himself but you would never notice by the way he struts around in an air of prideful mockery. 


Susan struggles with insecurity and it is evident by the way she constantly compares herself to others. 


Kristi struggles with insecurity so bad that when she’s around people she wishes she were invisible. 


Tom can’t seem to overcome his inner bondage, so he’s loud and obnoxious and does anything to get attention… even negative attention.


I’ve seen insecurity play out in these and many other ways as I’ve observed others.  Is there hope for these people?  Yes!


Are you beginning to see a pattern?  Insecurity is an inner stronghold that mirrors an outward struggle. 



How do you think yours projects outwardly?  Have you seen other peoples’ insecurities play out in the ways listed above?  What would you add to this list? Which do you think is the most common?  Why?

15 Responses to “What IS insecurity? (2)”

  • Cindy Beall says:

    Not sure if it’s the most common but one pattern I’ve seen emerge in many folks is their need to prove themselves. When people are insecure about who they are as a person, it is often displayed by arrogance, like you mentioned above. I can spot that stuff a mile away because I used to be that person. Tooting your own horn is very unattractive.

  • brittney pirtle says:

    one insecurity that i see ALOT in others is… i’ve been hurt in the past by someone or something… now anything they face, it’s “i don’t need you.”, “i don’t know why she is acting like I CARE when i don’t.” and i know that they need the help from others. i was in this same place, i didn’t need anyone, didn’t want anyone to care. cared about others but afraid to show it. but i think i have been free from that, and now facing the hurdle of trusting in the people i need, not running away from them. not being afraid to show them my love, for fear that they will run away. working on it though! good stuff annaboo! very proud of you!

  • Christie says:

    A need for control…HUGE! When we feel out of control in some areas, the ones we feel insecure in, we tend to want to overcompensate in others. Like Cindy, I can spot it very quickly in others because I’ve been there…I often still struggle with this, but WAY better than in the past…God is good. :)

  • Theresa says:

    Sometimes avoidance is a sign of insecurity. If I avoid participating in a women’s bible study or a parent club than I don’t have to worry about what others think about me…If they like me, if I am good enough. It is amazing what we do to ourselves by letting the enemy feed us lies.

  • Mandy says:

    Hmm…I think I display my insecurity in the need to control everything around me or in the extra weight. I certainly feel like I have to prove myself ALL THE TIME so I guess that would be me too…

  • Anna says:

    I appreciate all your feedback and comments… the biggest thing in overcoming this struggle is to realize that we’re even in a battle and that freedome IS possible! Too often the enemy would blind us to believing that this is just the way life is… THAT’S NOT TRUE! There is a life of freedom waiting for us! We just have to learn to claim it!

  • princessjes says:

    The “fake-it to make-it” mask is the greatest evidence of insecurity I see… I see it, I used to be it & I’m learing to overcome it & get over myself!

    • segun says:

      i feel that our insecurities are often caused by our negative past experience. its just the fear that what will happen in the past may likely happen again because of thesame signs we see that is similar to that of the past negative experience before it happened. so at the slightest sight of those similar signs, we react. its indeed an inner struggle that is birth and controlled by fear.

    • segun says:

      i would like to meet you so we could discuss these well segun_saromi@yahoo.com. thanks

  • Shanna Crawford says:

    I think my biggest insecurity is not being good enough. I tend to overcompensate in the areas I feel like I am failing. I have more and more freedom as God gives me the grace to accept my imperfections and even embrace them. He has released me from my own unattainable standards in many areas! He is my perfection!

  • Abbi Zeliff says:

    For me, insecurity always comes through comparison. How INSULTING to God! Like what He’s given me/who he’s made me isn’t good enough. Ick! The biggest ones I’ve seen in peers lately is the insecurity that builds walls and the insecurity that makes them try to hog the spotlight–for better or for worse.

  • Good stuff, great examples, well written! I can’s stand insecurity. I feel for the John, Susan, Kristi, Tom, Mike and Jane’s of the world.

  • Katie says:

    I struggle to overcome insecurity by competition. If I am better than the next guy, the majority of the class or even who I used to be than I feel a sense of security in my life, but it’s not real and it doesn’t last. I’m trying to overcome it without having to learn the hard way 😉

  • pearl says:

    insecurity is deep within every body and can only be cured by discovering who you are in christ Jesus,if you know who you are you will not maximize yourself,since i i did that am so comfortable and relaxed with my self.

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