Archive for October, 2009
How bad do you want it?
This phrase has marked my journey for the last four years. I now realize it is the question that holds most people back from the things they want the most.
I’ve often heard people say things like:
“I want to lose this extra weight.”
“I want to get that promotion at work.”
“I want to go back and finish school.”
“I want to find my soul mate.”
“I want to fulfill my dream.”
I hear these phrases often, but just as often, nothing happens. Here’s the question I want to ask when I hear those phrases.
How bad do you want it?
Can you see it? Can you feel it? Does the lack of progress make you angry? Can you taste it? Can you hear it? Do you want it? Do you WANT it?
How bad do you want it? The answer to this question will take you to your next step. So…
…How bad do you want it?
Recently I heard something that really got my attention. “The three most important areas of life are: our thoughts, our words and our actions.”
I know this is true from personal experience. When I was overweight I used this method to help me start losing.
I started thinking more positively about myself. Instead of looking in the mirror and telling myself I was fat, I looked in the mirror and told myself how hot I was going to look after I lost my weight.
Then I started telling everyone about my goal. “I’m going to lose 20 pounds.” I told everyone, my parents, friends, enemies, and even strangers at the gym. Speaking it out loud made it final. Speaking it out loud made it MINE. (Note: I didn’t say, “I want to lose 20 pounds.” I said, “I AM going to lose 20 pounds.” There’s a big difference.
Then of course, I started working toward my goal. There’s something about telling everyone you know about your goal that actually makes you do it. It’s accountability in the worst and best way! So…
Is there something in your life you want to do? Some goal you want to accomplish? Some sin you want to overcome?
- It all starts with your thoughts. Focusing your thoughts can bring huge changes in your life. Start thinking about what you want to do.
- Then you speak it. Speak whatever it is to anyone and everyone who will listen.
- After you’ve done those two things, you take action. Do what you’ve been talking and thinking about doing, and don’t worry about failing.
I know that if you can master those three areas of life nothing can hold you back.
Is there something in your life that you want to accomplish, or change?
Think it, Speak it, Do it!
Don’t you wish we could all just live life the way God intended it? Sometimes I wish I had a magical wand and with just the right wave, and just the right words we could all live that perfect life. Away from pain and heartache, away from lies and bondage, and freed from the negative opinions of others and even more deadly the negative opinions we have of ourselves. But unfortunately there is no magic wand. Too many of us live the life we have: Imprisoned to our own self-doubt, in bondage to the lies we believe as true, and held back from the all that God has in store for us.
But here’s my question: When did we allow someone else to dictate how we live? When did we let the lies and excuses take away our opportunity for greatness? So many people forget that they are in control of their lives, they are in control of their thinking and therefore they are responsible for the results or outcomes of the life God has given them. For too long I have lived my life letting something else dictate my actions. For too long I have watched as others succumb to the lies of the enemy never realizing this all important truth, the #1 weapon to use when you face the enemy of insecurity.
You must remember that: Perception is Reality. Your perception of yourself, is everyone else’s reality.
- If you don’t believe in yourself, have a poor self-image, and hold yourself back because of insecurity, you will act out of that perception and therefore it becomes reality.
Therefore: People will doubt your ability, feel sorry for you and ultimately may discount your credibility.
- If you believe what GOD says about you, find your image and identity in HIM, and jump into opportunities that HE leads you to (whether you think you can do it or not) you will act out of that perception, (which is the truth anyway.) and it will become your reality.
Therefore: People will believe in you, follow you as you lead, and be challenged because of the way you live your life.
Perception is Reality.
What perception are you living out?
You are in control.
Live the life God intended.
How we all wish that were true! Then we’d have a legitimate excuse to stay in our little box, never venturing out, never meeting new people, and never exploring new adventures.
I’m a huge advocate for getting out of your comfort zone. I read once that doing something you don’t want to do at least once a day, builds character. Since reading that, I’ve tried to make it a point to regularly push out the boundaries of my comfort zone.
Below are 5 things you may never realize unless Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone is a regular habit:
1. You never know who you are going to meet! (As I was writing this, I just met a woman named Carolyn. She is a SAG member from Idaho.)
2. You never know what new experiences you will acquire. (I once read that it is better to collect experiences, rather than possessions. Experiences can’t break, get old, or get taken away!)
3. You never know how God might want to use you in a particular situation. (He sees the bigger picture, not us… enough said!)
4. You’ll never know what you never knew… (It’s time to learn something new!)
5. You may never know what you are truly capable of!
Add more of your own, and Get Out of Your Comfort Zone!
I had the opportunity stay at the new Tulsa Hard Rock Hotel these past two days.
The hotel is immaculate: marble floors, crystal chandeliers, plush carpets, towels and bedding. This was the setting for my first SAG retreat.
What is SAG? It stands for State Advisory Group. It’s taken me a while to learn what all the letters stand for… but as I get more involved, I’m realizing that what we do on this board is really very inspiring.
The SAG is an advisory group appointed by the Governor, made up of various individuals in all stations of life. There are pastors, representatives, judges, state employees, and retirees. There are 17 in our state advisory group, and we represent the JJDP for the state.
What is JJDP? It stands for Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention. In essence what we do is decide what non-profit programs receive funding from the state. Programs such as the Boys and Girls Club of America, Big Brothers Big Sisters, many Native American prevention programs, and other after-school and mentor based programs– All aimed at the same goal: To keep students out of trouble.
This is my first year on the board and I’m excited to keep serving and learning. Next week I’ll be in Austin for a JJDP training. I see it as another way to keep fighting for the lives of young people, and continue to allow my burden for students to move me to action.
What is your burden?
Often times I run into people who are discontent with the role they play. Whether that be a student, a leader or someone I’m meeting with, I’ll often hear these words: “I just don’t feel like I play a very vital role.” Or “Sometimes I wonder if what I do matters.”
Let me ask a question: Do you play a vital role, or a value role? Both are equally important, but each one has it’s own characteristics.
Vital roles tend to be those roles that are more visual or out in the open.
Value roles are roles that tend to stay behind the scenes, directing, coaching, and giving support.
The interesting thing about these roles is that one can’t survive without the other. They both need each other to reach their common goal. It reminds me of this scripture:
“But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it. How strange a body would be if it had only one part! Yes, there are many parts, but only one body.”–1 Corinthians 12:18-19
So which role do you play? If you know it, play it well, stop wishing you played a different role, and be thankful God has chosen you to play a role in HIS story.
I’m not talking about social security cards and driver’s licenses, I’m talking about identity: the condition of being oneself; the sense of self, providing sameness and continuity in personality over time.
I work with lots of people in my job, co-workers, volunteers, students, parents, and everyday I observe people who either have a very strong sense of identity, or those who have no idea who they are. Here are 5 signs you may not know who you are.
1. You copy the behavior of whoever seems cool at the time.
2. You dabble in a vast variety of hobbies and activities, never committing to one or the other.
3. You’re opinions are either never shared, or always easily swayed.
4. You crave the praise and admiration of other people–Actually you almost need it to survive.
5. You’re often doubting, dogging, or down on yourself.
Can you think of anymore to share?
I’ve struggled myself in this area of identity, but following these next 5 steps, your identity will slowly be revealed.
1. Ask God to show you who you are. Everyday, until He does.
2. Find a trusted older friend or mentor who has a strong sense of identity. Ask them to help you in your journey to finding yours.
3. Take various personality, spiritual gifts, and strengths finder tests. These are tools to help us discover who we are.
4. Quit prostituting your emotions on other people. Get a grip on yourself and act like an adult!
5. Believe in who God has made you to be. You’ll never be good at being someone else!