Archive for November 3rd, 2009
No, it’s not just the song from Dean Martin, unfortunately, it is the lie so many of us as women believe.
I lived much of my single years with this kind of mindset. I thought that life didn’t actually start until I had found the right man and married him. This lie is so ingrained in our society that even my grandmother, pulling me aside at my rehearsal dinner, said, “Now you’re life has really begun.” I know so many sinlge ladies that have also bought in to this mind set. In the back of their minds they have that niggling thought: “Well, I’ll just put this off untill I’m married. I’ll just put off getting into shape. I’ll just put off starting my career. I’ll just put off starting that ministry. I’ll just put these things off until my life has really begun.
Single ladies aren’t the only ones who struggle with this lie. I’ve met with married ladies who admit, with fear in their eyes, that they don’t know what they would do if their husband left them. Their identities are so wrapped up in their husbands that even the slightest argument sends them spirialing in fear and doubt about their relationship.
Why? Because we believe the lie that: You’re Nobody ’till Somebody Loves You.
I say, we need to rebel against this lie! What a horrible, self-degrating thing to believe about ourselves! By believing this lie we are saying to the world that our worth, our significance, our identity is left up to the fickle mind of another human being! This lie has got to go! We are too valuable to believe such a thing. Don’t you see what the enemy is trying to do?
“Than what’s the answer? How do we climb out of this well of lies?”
We do it with truth. We do it together.
Lie: You’re Nobody ’till Sombody Loves You.
Truth: Somebody already loves you!
I know what you must be thinking. “Oh, that’s easy for you to say, you’re already married.” Or “Anna, I’ve heard that one all my life. Got anything better?” Let me ask you this: What is better than knowing that Jesus Christ, The God of the universe, is absolutely, incredibly, unconditionally, and irrationally in love with you! Yes, you! If you’re looking for something better than that, I’d say you really haven’t come to grips with just how amazingly outstanding that statement, that truth, really is! He doesn’t just love you, He’s in love and loving you right now. He loved you even before you were born. He loved you so much He decided that giving up his life for you was worth it. Now what is our life worth to us? He’s the only Man who will ever truly satisfy you. He’s the Warrior our hearts were made for. We’re the maidens He’s risked His life for! Just writing about this gives me goosebumps. Just thinking about it makes me want to raise my hands in worship. Jesus loves me! Jesus loves you! You are somebody to someone! THE SOMEONE!
What do you need to do this week to get that through your head? Do you need to confess some sin so you can experience God’s beautiful grace? Do you need to forgive yourself so you can began to see what God sees when He looks at you? Do you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and realize just how blessed you are with the things you DO have instead of focusing on the things you don’t? What do you need to start that you have been putting off?
You’re Nobody ’till Somebody Loves You
You’re Everything to the Only Somebody Who Truly Matters.
That should be enough to last a life-time!