Archive for November, 2009

You’re Nobody Unless You’re Pretty

This lie has so many women addicted to the gym. It has their wallets stretched thin with the latest beauty products, fashions and specialties all promising to keep them looking beautiful. It encourages women to seek medical advice about the shape of their nose, or the size of their stomach. It’s deception keeps our noses in magazines and our eyes on what the world has told us is the standard of beauty.

You’re Nobody Unless You’re Pretty

Pretty to who? Pretty to your husband? Pretty to your friends, co-workers, parents, siblings, or strangers? Who are we asking to answer this question? Are they not giving us the answers we want? Are they not satisfying our need for validation in the area of our image? Why do we continue to strive for beauty and yet every time we look in the mirror we see the same old thing?

Maybe because we’re asking the wrong people. Maybe because we’re letting the wrong people decide what the standard of beauty should be. Have you ever asked yourself if you think you’re beautiful? What did you say? Therein lies your answer.

Ladies, until we begin to feel beautiful on the inside there is no amount of primping, prepping or plucking that can make us feel beautiful on the outside.

We must come to rest with who we are before we can look in the mirror and actually believe the truth that we are beautiful. (Read that again.) We must come to rest with who we are before we can look in the mirror and believe the truth that WE ARE BEAUTIFUL! God’s Word says, “The King is enthralled with your beauty, honor Him for He is your Lord.”–Psalms 45:11. That is truth, girls! We have been made in the image of GOD. Why do we have such a hard time believing it? Maybe because we haven’t learned to accept ourselves for who we are yet. Maybe because we haven’t learned to love ourselves. How do we expect to accept God’s love for us, if we don’t even love ourselves? Believe me, it won’t work. I know from experience.

So maybe the reflection of the mirror isn’t where we start. Maybe a better question to ask ourselves is, “What is the reflection of my heart? Have I accepted myself for who God made me to be? Have I accepted His love for me, and His truth that I am beautiful?”

Asking these questions and seeking the truth in them is a great first step in accepting who you are. Here are three more steps to help you on the journey:

1. Write down the top three physical things you don’t like about yourself. Do you have the power to change these things? Do it!

2. Write down the top five physical things you LOVE about yourself.

3. Spend time in Gods word seeking scriptures about what He thinks of you. Start memorizing these.

You’re Nobody Unless You’re Pretty

Your Beauty Makes the King of the Universe Gasp in Shock

Believe it!

You’re Nobody ’till Somebody Loves You

No, it’s not just the song from Dean Martin, unfortunately, it is the lie so many of us as women believe.

I lived much of my single years with this kind of mindset. I thought that life didn’t actually start until I had found the right man and married him. This lie is so ingrained in our society that even my grandmother, pulling me aside at my rehearsal dinner, said, “Now you’re life has really begun.” I know so many sinlge ladies that have also bought in to this mind set. In the back of their minds they have that niggling thought: “Well, I’ll just put this off untill I’m married. I’ll just put off getting into shape. I’ll just put off starting my career. I’ll just put off starting that ministry. I’ll just put these things off until my life has really begun.

Single ladies aren’t the only ones who struggle with this lie. I’ve met with married ladies who admit, with fear in their eyes, that they don’t know what they would do if their husband left them. Their identities are so wrapped up in their husbands that even the slightest argument sends them spirialing in fear and doubt about their relationship.

Why? Because we believe the lie that: You’re Nobody ’till Somebody Loves You.

I say, we need to rebel against this lie! What a horrible, self-degrating thing to believe about ourselves! By believing this lie we are saying to the world that our worth, our significance, our identity is left up to the fickle mind of another human being! This lie has got to go! We are too valuable to believe such a thing. Don’t you see what the enemy is trying to do? 

“Than what’s the answer? How do we climb out of this well of lies?”

We do it with truth. We do it together.

Lie: You’re Nobody ’till Sombody Loves You.

Truth: Somebody already loves you!

I know what you must be thinking. “Oh, that’s easy for you to say, you’re already married.” Or “Anna, I’ve heard that one all my life. Got anything better?” Let me ask you this: What is better than knowing that Jesus Christ, The God of the universe, is absolutely, incredibly, unconditionally, and irrationally in love with you! Yes, you! If you’re looking for something better than that, I’d say you really haven’t come to grips with just how amazingly outstanding that statement, that truth, really is! He doesn’t just love you, He’s in love and loving you right now. He loved you even before you were born. He loved you so much He decided that giving up his life for you was worth it. Now what is our life worth to us? He’s the only Man who will ever truly satisfy you. He’s the Warrior our hearts were made for. We’re the maidens He’s risked His life for! Just writing about this gives me goosebumps. Just thinking about it makes me want to raise my hands in worship. Jesus loves me! Jesus loves you! You are somebody to someone! THE SOMEONE!

What do you need to do this week to get that through your head? Do you need to confess some sin so you can experience God’s beautiful grace? Do you need to forgive yourself so you can began to see what God sees when He looks at you? Do you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and realize just how blessed you are with the things you DO have instead of focusing on the things you don’t? What do you need to start that you have been putting off?

You’re Nobody ’till Somebody Loves You

You’re Everything to the Only Somebody Who Truly Matters.

That should be enough to last a life-time!

The 4 Lies that Steal a Woman’s Identity

What does a woman look like today?

Maybe a better question is: what should a woman look like today? We all knew what a woman looked like back in the 1950s.

1950s WomanThey were the portrait of duty, stepping in to handle things even when the men went off to war.

1970s WomanBut only 2 decades later we see women rising up in protest, demanding that we have the same rights as men.

So that just makes me wonder, what does the woman look like today? In our fast-paced, instant-gratifying culture, with no real sense of absolute, truth I realized, we don’t really know what a woman looks like today. I blame most of this on the fact that we’ve been believing lies since the beginning of time. In the garden, Eve was deceived by the serpent, and ever since then we’ve been allowing that same deceiver to whisper lies into our minds.

  • You’re nobody unless somebody loves you.
  • You’re nobody unless you’re pretty.
  • You’re nobody unless you’re as strong, as good and as successful as your male counterparts.
  • You’re nobody unless you’re better than somebody else.

The father of lies, uses lies to steal the one thing he knows would give us power, if we just believed it: Our Identity.

He wants to steal our identity. If he can effectively steal our identity he knows he’s pulled the shade over our eyes. He knows we’ll fall for whatever charade he prances before us, whatever insecurity we allow to dominate our thoughts, words, and actions.

But I say, it’s time to declare war on these lies. It’s time to get a little sweaty, get a little bloody, and use the weapons we’ve been given to fight this battle we all face. We don’t have to believe these lies any longer. It’s time to take back our identity and find out what we as women truly look like.

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