Posts Tagged ‘lies’
When I was younger I told a lie. Ok, so I told lots of lies and most of those lies were told so I wouldn’t get into trouble. The problem was, every lie I told got me into deeper trouble when the lie was found out. Because the lie is always found out. The truth always has a way of surfacing given enough time.
You know that feeling you have when you tell a lie? It’s almost as if you float out of your body and watch yourself. You get this quick sweaty feeling all over your body and your heart rate picks up a few notches. You wait, holding your breath to see if the lie was a success and when you realize it was, you want to let out that breath, but can’t. You end up holding that breath for weeks, maybe years, you hold it for as long as the lie lasts because you know at any moment it could be found out and then it would all be over.
I remember the way it feels when you finally decided to tell the truth. You let that breath go and this enormous weight lifts off your shoulders. You realize life on the right side of truth isn’t so bad and you ask yourself, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”
The truth is always the best rout to take. Even if you think a lie will save you from trouble or embarrassment, imagine the trouble or embarrassment you’ll have to face when that lie is found out. Because the lie is always found out. The truth always has a way of surfacing given enough time.
Please, tell the truth. It’s the right thing to do.
I walked through life believing this lie for far too long. As I think back on it now, I’m shocked at how my thoughts had such a strong effect on my actions. I believed I was fat, therefore, I would overeat, not exercise, or at least cut corners if I did.
My perception of myself became my reality, (read that again.) and I plunged down a destructive spiral that I felt powerless to stop.
Until I realized. I was not fat. I was merely stuck in a fat person’s body. Anna, the real Anna was not this overweight, depressed girl who didn’t see a way out. She was joyful, full of life, full of love, an encourager, energetic! But stuck. How was I going to push through? How was I going to become on the outside, what I knew I was on the inside?
The answer: TRUTH.
For too long, I lived in this lie: “You’re fat, therefore you’re not whole. No one likes you. No one wants to be around you.” I thought it was true, so it became true. But once I started changing my thinking, other things started to change as well. I realized I was living a lie, so to overcome that lie, I had to find truth. And where better to find truth, than the Truth itself?
I dove into the scriptures, finding truths that directly countered the lies I believed about myself.
I’m fat, I’m ugly—> “The King is enthralled with my beauty, honor Him for He is your Lord!”–Psalm 45:11
No one likes me, no one wants to be around me—> “I have chosen you to be my special treasure.”–Deuteronomy 7:6
Any time the lie would hit, I would have a truth ready to do battle. It was hard at first. Sometimes it felt like I would take one step forward, and two steps back. But I trudged forward, knowing I had to change my thinking. Pretty soon, believing truth became like second nature to me. I walked in the confidence of His truth, and soon the lies slowly fell away, and with them, the weight. I slowly became on the outside what I knew I was on the inside. His truth changed me from the inside out! Now, I continue to walk in truth, doing battle against the lies that come my way.
What about you? Do you believe the truth about yourself, or are you spiraling down a deadly cycle you feel powerless to stop? Maybe you don’t even struggle with weight, like I did, but you do face an equally difficult lie, an insecurity that holds you back. Do you want to be free? The truth will set you free.
Activities to consider:
1. Write down the top five characteristics that describe you. Ex: Joyful, encourager, energetic, etc. This is who you are! (If you have a difficult time with this, ask your husband, a trusted friend or relative.)
2. Write down the top three lies your believe about yourself.
3. Find three scriptures that directly counter the lies you believe. Memorize them.
When I was in the 8th grade a “friend” of mine used those words to cut me. Not knowing what else to do I threw an equally hurtful cut down in his face. Being a guy, he took it as more of a joke than anything else.
But I didn’t. I remembered it. From that moment on. I remembered it.
I carried those words around for years. Wondering who else thought them. Wondering who else was saying them under their breath, or to a friend once my back was turned. Those words were the filter of most of my interactions with people. I was never really able to be myself, because in my mind the question kept bouncing around like a little imp needing attention: “Do they think I’m fat?”
It wasn’t until much later in life, that I realized I was living under a lie. No, the lie was not “You’re Fat!”–that was actually true. The lie that I’d been believing for years was that, “I’m fat, and therefore I’m not whole.” I’m missing something. I’m not a true person.–Those are lies.
Realizing that I was living under lies was half the battle but it took me another few years to find out how to overcome them…
Here’s how I got to that equation:
If you believe a truth often enough, hard enough, eventually you and the people around you will believe it as truth as well.
If what we believe really does effect how we act and who we are, shouldn’t we start believing the truth?
- Truth: You are God’s workmanship. Created in Christ Jesus to do good works!
- Truth: You are God’s masterpiece. Perfectly woven together and known from birth!
- Truth: You are God’s chosen one. Set apart as His child before you ever took a breath!
That is truth, no matter how you feel, what you think, or what others say…
Truth is truth no matter who believes it. Might as well believe it.
Do you have a hard time believing the truth about yourself?
How do you think this hinders us in our lives?
What will you do TODAY to start living in God’s TRUTH?
If you believe a lie long enough, eventually people will begin to believe it as truth.
I haven’t been able to get this saying out of my head. Dave Ramsey used this saying when he spoke at LifeChurch.tv this past weekend to describe what people believe about money. But ever since hearing it I can’t seem to get out of my head how true it is when it comes to insecurity.
Let me give you an example: Whatever you believe about yourself, be it low thoughts of yourself, high thoughts, no thoughts, eventually that’s what people will believe about you too. Understanding this concept is so vitally important.
- If you don’t believe that what you have to say matters… others won’t believe it matters either.
- If you don’t think you can do something… others won’t think you can do it either.
- If you think you’re insecure, you will act insecure… causing others to believe you’re insecure. (A lie)
- Add some of your own…
Whatever you believe about yourself is how your actions and behaviors will follow your line of thinking. What we believe about ourselves determines our behaviors, and in turn effects what others believe about us as well.
Do you agree, disagree? Have you seen this play out in your life?