You can’t miss something you never had.

My husband is out of town again. This happens more often than I would like. I was complaining about it to a friend of mine yesterday, admitting that I had teared up after talking to my husband on the phone. My friend looked at me like I was crazy.

“It can’t be that bad,” he said. “Life before Cody (my husband) went on, right?”

“Right.” But that was before life with Cody…. ”You don’t understand. When he’s gone, a piece of me is missing.” This response of course seemed dramatic and irrational to my male friend’s brain. But he just didn’t get it. Because you can’t miss something you never had.

I can’t say I ever missed Cody before I knew him. I didn’t know what I was missing. But now I do.

You probably don’t miss my husband, but I imagine if one of your loved ones was gone, you’d feel the same way I’m feeling right now.

When someone is away, there’s something missing. All is not right in the world when you’re apart, but then everything seems to find it’s perfect place when they return. I’m looking forward to Thursday night when he gets back because,

You can’t miss something you never had.